Breaking gender molds this women’s day

‘The opposite of patriarchy is not matriarchy but fraternity.’ (Germaine Greer)

The first time I read this phrase, I was stunned into silence. Having participated in numerous panel discussions and debates on patriarchy, I, like many of my contemporaries, believed that the only way to dismantle this oppressive system was through women’s empowerment. I wholeheartedly supported the prevailing wave of men-bashing across various platforms. Yet, a quiet thought occasionally surfaced— what about the men in my life who had always been supportive and encouraging? Did they, too, deserve to be placed in the same category as those who perpetuate patriarchy or pass it down through generations? This question unsettled me. Were all men equally culpable, or was there room for a more nuanced perspective? It forced me to reconsider the narrative I had embraced, compelling me to differentiate between those who uphold patriarchy and those who stand against it, even within a system that benefits them.

Greer’s statement mercifully calmed my chaotic thoughts. She asserts that the opposite of patriarchy is not matriarchy but a balanced world where everyone, regardless of gender, has equal opportunity and strength. In such a society, neither holds dominance over the other; instead, both voices are heard, fostering harmony. This perspective shifted my understanding— true progress lies not in reversing power dynamics but in creating an equitable space where mutual respect prevails. The key to genuine equality and lasting social harmony is a world built on balance, not opposition.

The Dowry Prohibition Act, introduced in the 1960s, was designed to deter those who upheld this harmful practice. It protected many women across the country, acting as a shield against exploitation. However, over time, what was meant to be a safeguard began to be misused, with some leveraging it to falsely implicate innocent men. A law created to ensure justice gradually became a tool of manipulation, raising concerns about its fairness and implementation.

This highlights a crucial need for a society where gender equality prevails, and justice remains impartial. True progress is not achieved by tilting the scales in favour of one gender while disregarding the other. A homogenized society ensures that neither men nor women face discrimination, and laws are enforced with fairness, free from misuse. Empowerment should not come at the cost of injustice but through a balanced system where everyone, irrespective of gender, thrives with dignity and respect.

Women’s Day should not be reduced to a platform for anti-men rhetoric but should serve as a reminder of the journey toward gender equality. True empowerment lies not in opposing men but in fostering mutual respect and collaboration. The day should celebrate the achievements of women while also acknowledging the role of supportive men who champion equality.

Institutions should organize competitions that challenge traditional gender roles, promoting equality and inclusivity. For men, contests in cooking, sewing, knitting, or even home decor can encourage the idea that household skills are not limited to women. Similarly, women can participate in competitions like carpentry, repairing electrical appliances, driving heavy vehicles, or coding challenges— fields often associated with men.

Such events would not only break stereotypes but also inspire confidence in individuals to pursue skills beyond societal expectations. Encouraging a mindset where abilities are not confined to gender will lead to a more balanced, progressive, and self-reliant society.

Instead of men-bashing, Women’s Day can be used to initiate conversations about shared responsibilities, equal opportunities, and breaking stereotypes for both genders. Schools and workplaces can hold discussions on gender sensitivity, recognising contributions beyond traditional roles. Highlighting stories of men and women working together for societal progress can reinforce the idea that equality benefits all. Encouraging policies that promote work-life balance, equal pay, and safety for all genders can make a lasting impact. A truly progressive society is one where both men and women uplift each other, creating a world of fairness and harmony.

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